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What happens in the dating world can reflect larger currents within popular culture. For example, when the 1995 book The Rules appeared, it touched off media controversy about how men and women should relate to each other, with different positions taken by New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd [58] and British writer Kira Cochrane of The Guardian . [59] and others. [60] [61] It has even caused anthropologists such as Helen Fisher to suggest that dating is a game designed to "impress and capture" which is not about "honesty" but "novelty", "excitement" and even "danger", which can boost dopamine levels in the brain. [62] The subject of dating has spun off popular culture terms such as the friend zone which refers to a situation in which a dating relation evolves into a platonic non-sexual union. [63] [64] [65] [66] Since people dating often do not know each other well, there is the risk of violence , including date rape . According to one report, there was a 10% chance of violence between students happening between a boyfriend and girlfriend , sometimes described as "intimate partner violence", over a 12–month period. [67] Another estimate was that 20% of U.S. high school girls aged 14–18 were "hit, slapped, shoved or forced into sexual activity". [68] There is evidence that violence while dating isn`t limited to any one culture or group or religion, but that it remains an issue in different countries. [69] It is usually the female who is the victim, but there have been cases where males have been hurt as well. Sara McCorquodale suggests that women meeting strangers on dates meet initially in busy public places, share details of upcoming dates with friends or family so they know where they`ll be and who they`ll be with, avoid revealing one`s surname or address, and conducting searches on them on the Internet prior to the date. [70] One advisor suggested: Don`t leave drinks unattended; have an exit plan if things go badly; and ask a friend to call you on your cell phone an hour into the date to ask how it`s going. [70] In some regions of the world, such as Chechnya , bride stealing is fairly common, enough to provoke leader Ramzan Kadyrov to urge young men to use persuasion instead. [71] Kadyrov advised: If you explain beautifully, a woman does not look to see whether you are handsome or not -- but listens more, so you can win her heart. That is why I advise our boys to read stories and watch movies more and to learn more beautiful phrases to tell girls. Map showing the most popular social media applications, by country; Facebook is dominant in 2016. The Internet is shaping the way new generations date. Facebook , Skype , Whatsapp , and other applications have made remote connections possible. Particularly for the LGBTQ+ community, where the dating pool can be more difficult to navigate due to discrimination and having a `minority` status in society. Online dating tools are an alternate way to meet potential dates. [72] [73] Many people use smartphone apps such as Tinder, Grindr, or Bumble which allow a user to accept or reject another user with a single swipe of a finger. [74] Some critics have suggested that matchmaking algorithms are imperfect and are "no better than chance" for the task of identifying acceptable partners. [74] Others have suggested that the speed and availability of emerging technologies may be undermining the possibility for couples to have long-term meaningful relationships when finding a replacement partner has potentially become too easy. [74] Dating customs and habits vary considerably throughout the world. The average duration of courtship before proceeding to engagement or marriage varies considerably throughout the world. [75] According to one source, there are four ways that marriage can happen among the Nyangatom people : (1) arranged marriage, when well-respected elders are sent to the girl`s family on behalf of the boy`s family; (2) courtship or dating after a friendly meeting between boy and girl such as at a market place or holiday where there`s dancing; (3) abduction, such as during a blood feud between families; (4) inheritance. [76] Asia is a mix of traditional approaches with involvement by parents and extended families such as arranged marriages as well as modern dating. In many cultural traditions, including some in South Asia , [77] and the Middle East [78] and to some extent East Asia , as in the case of Omiai in Japan and the similar "Xiangqin" (相親) practiced in the Greater China Area , a date may be arranged by a third party, who may be a family member, acquaintance, or professional matchmaker. Patterns of dating are changing in China, with increased modernization bumping into traditional ways. One report in China Daily suggests that dating for Chinese university women is "difficult" and "takes work" and steals time away from academic advancement, and places women in a precarious position of having to balance personal success against traditional Chinese relationships. [79] Women have high standards for men they seek, but also worry that their academic credentials may "scare away more traditional Chinese men." [79] It is difficult finding places to have privacy, since many dormitory rooms have eight or more pupils in one suite. [79] And dating in restaurants can be expensive. [79] One commentator noted: "American couples drink and dance together. But in China, we study together." [79] Professional single women can choose to wait: Like other women in my social circle, I have certain demands for a potential mate. He doesn`t have to make much more than I do, but he must be doing at least as well as I am, and has to be compatible with me, both morally and spiritually ... He should also own an apartment instead of us buying one together. Remember what Virginia Wolf [sic] said? Every woman should have a room of her own . The game show If You Are the One , titled after Chinese personal ads, featured provocative contestants making sexual allusions and the show reportedly ran afoul of authorities and had to change its approach. [80] The two-host format involves a panel of 24 single women questioning a man to decide if he`ll remain on the show; if he survives, he can choose a girl to date; the show gained notoriety for controversial remarks and opinions such as model Ma Nuo saying she`d prefer to "weep in a BMW than laugh on a bike", who was later banned from making appearances. [81] A new format of Internet "QQ" chat rooms is gaining ground against so-called "traditional dating agencies" in Changsha (Hunan Province); the QQ rooms have 20,000 members, and service is much less expensive than dating agencies which can charge 100 to 200 yuan ($13 to $26 USD) per introduction. [82] Internet dating, with computer-assisted matchmaking, is becoming more prevalent; one site supposedly has 23 million registered users. [83] Speed dating has come to Shanghai and other cities. [84] [85] Worldwide online matchmakers have explored entering the Chinese market via partnerships or acquisitions. [86] There are conflicting reports about dating in China`s capital city. One account suggests that the dating scene in Beijing is "sad" with particular difficulties for expatriate Chinese women hoping to find romance. [87] One explanation was that there are more native Chinese women, who seem to be preferred by Chinese men, and that expat women are seen as "foreigners" by comparison. [87] According to the 2006 report, expat Chinese men have better luck in the Beijing dating scene. [87] A different report, however, suggested that Chinese men preferred Western women, whom they consider to be more independent, less girlish, and more straightforward than Chinese women. [88] Another account suggested that western women in Beijing seem invisible and have trouble attracting Chinese men. [89] Each year, November 11 has become an unofficial holiday [90] known as China`s Singles` Day when singles are encouraged to make an extra effort to find a partner. [91] Worried parents of unmarried children often arrange dates for their offspring on this day as well as others. [91] Before the day approaches, thousands of college students and young workers post messages describing their plans for this day. In Arabic numerals, the day looks like "1111", that is, "like four single people standing together", and there was speculation that it originated in the late 1990s when college students celebrated being single with "a little self-mockery" [90] but a differing explanation dates it back to events in the Roman Empire . [90] For many, Singles` Day offers people a way to "demonstrate their stance on love and marriage . [90] There is concern that young people`s views of marriage have changed because of economic opportunities, with many choosing deliberately not to get married, [90] as well as young marrieds who have decided not to have children, or to postpone having them. [91] Cohabiting relationships are tolerated more often. [6] Communities where people live but don`t know each other well are becoming more common in China like elsewhere, leading to fewer opportunities to meet somebody locally without assistance. [91] Divorce rates are rising in cities such as Shanghai , which recorded 27,376 divorces in 2004, an increase of 30% from 2003. [91] A government-sponsored agency called Shanghai Women`s Activities Centre (Chinese: Jinguoyuan) organized periodic matchmaking events often attended by parents. [92] Chinese-style flirtatiousness is termed sajiao, best described as "to unleash coquettishness" with feminine voice, tender gestures, and girlish protestations. [93] Chinese women expect to be taken care of (zhaogu) by men like a baby girl is doted on by an attentive and admiring father. [93] They wish to be almost "spoiled" (guan) by a man buying gifts, entertainment, and other indulgences. [93] It`s a positive sign of heartache (xinteng) when a man feels compelled to do "small caring things" for a woman without being asked such as pouring a glass of water or offering a "piggyback ride if she`s tired." [93] These are signs of love and accepted romantic notions in China, according to one source. [93] Romantic love is more difficult during times of financial stress, and economic forces can encourage singles, particularly women, to select a partner primarily on financial considerations. Some men postpone marriage until their financial position is more secure and use wealth to help attract women. One trend is towards exclusive matchmaking events for the `rich and powerful`; for example, an annual June event in Wuhan with expensive entry-ticket prices for men (99,999 RMB) lets financially secure men choose so-called bikini brides based on their beauty and education , [94] and the financial exclusivity of the event was criticized by the official news outlet China Daily . [95] A brave lover in Beijing must be prepared to accept a paradigm shift to enjoy the cross-cultural dating experience. There was a report that sexual relations among middle schoolers in Guangzhou sometimes resulted in abortions. [96] There have been reports of scams involving get-rich-quick schemes; a forty-year-old migrant worker was one of a thousand seduced by an advertisement which read "Rich woman willing to pay 3 million yuan for sperm donor" but the worker was cheated out of his savings of 190,000 yuan (27,500 USD). [97] Indian dating is heavily influenced by the custom of arranged marriages which require little dating, although there are strong indications that the institution is undergoing change, and that love marriages are becoming more accepted as India becomes more intertwined with the rest of the world. In the cities at least, it is becoming more accepted for two people to meet and try to find if there is compatibility.[ citation needed ] The majority of Indian marriages are arranged by parents and relatives, and one estimate is that 7 of every 10 marriages are arranged. [98] Sometimes the bride and groom don`t meet until the wedding, and there is no courtship or wooing before the joining. [75] In the past, it meant that couples were chosen from the same caste and religion and economic status. [99] There is widespread support for arranged marriages generally. Writer Lavina Melwani described a happy marriage which had been arranged by the bride`s father, and noted that during the engagement, the woman was allowed to go out with him before they were married on only one occasion; the couple married and found happiness. [100] Supporters of arranged marriage suggest that there is a risk of having the marriage fall apart whether it was arranged by relatives or by the couple themselves, and that what`s important is not how the marriage came to be but what the couple does after being married. [100] Parents and relatives exert considerable influence, sometimes posting matrimonial ads in newspapers and online. [99] Customs encourage families to put people together, and discourage sexual experimentation as well as so-called serial courtship in which a prospective bride or groom dates but continually rejects possible partners, since the interests of the family are seen as more important than the romantic needs of the people marrying. [2] Indian writers, such as Mistry in his book Family Matters, sometimes depict arranged marriages as unhappy. [101] Writer Sarita Sarvate of India Currents thinks people calculate their "value" on the "Indian marriage market" according to measures such as family status, and that arranged marriages typically united spouses who often didn`t love each other. [102] She suggested love was out of place in this world because it risked passion and "sordid" sexual liaisons. [102] Love, as she sees it, is "Waking up in the morning and thinking about someone." [102] Writer Jennifer Marshall described the wife in an arranged marriage as living in a world of solitude without much happiness, and feeling pressured by relatives to conceive a son so she wouldn`t be considered as "barren" by her husband`s family; in this sense, the arranged marriage didn`t bring "love, happiness, and companionship." [103] Writer Vijaysree Venkatraman believes arranged marriages are unlikely to disappear soon, commenting in his book review of Shoba Narayan`s Monsoon Diary, which has a detailed description of the steps involved in a present-day arranged marriage. [104] There are indications that even the institution of arranged marriages is changing, with marriages increasingly being arranged by "unknown, unfamiliar sources" and less based on local families who know each other. [98] Writer Lavina Melwani in Little India compared Indian marriages to business deals: Until recently, Indian marriages had all the trappings of a business transaction involving two deal-making families, a hardboiled matchmaker and a vocal board of shareholders – concerned uncles and aunts. The couple was almost incidental to the deal. They just dressed and showed up for the wedding ceremony. And after that the onus was on them to adjust to the 1,001 relatives, get to know each other and make the marriage work. Relationships in which dating is undertaken by two people, who choose their dates without parental involvement and sometimes carry on clandestine get-togethers, has become increasingly common. When this leads to a wedding, the resulting unions are sometimes called love marriages. There are increasing incidences when couples initiate contact on their own, particularly if they live in a foreign country; in one case, a couple met surreptitiously over a game of cards. [99] Indians who move abroad to Britain or America often follow the cultural patterns of their new country: for example, one Indian woman met a white American man while skiing, and married him, and the formerly "all-important relatives" were reduced to bystanders trying to influence things ineffectively. [99] Factors operating worldwide, such as increased affluence, the need for longer education, and greater mobility have lessened the appeal for arranged marriages, and these trends have affected criteria about which possible partners are acceptable, making it more likely that pairings will cross previously impenetrable barriers such as caste or ethnic background. [99] Indian Americans in the U.S. sometimes participate in Singles Meets organized by websites which happen about once a month, with 100 participants at each event; an organizer did not have firm statistics about the success rate leading to a long-term relationship but estimated about one in every ten members finds a partner through the site. [105] Dating websites are gaining ground in India. Writer Rupa Dev preferred websites which emphasized authenticity and screened people before entering their names into their databases, making it a safer environment overall, so that site users can have greater trust that it is safe to date others on the site. [106] Dev suggested that dating websites were much better than the anonymous chatrooms of the 1990s. [106] During the interval before marriage, whether it is an arranged or a love marriage, private detectives have been hired to check up on a prospective bride or groom, or to verify claims about a potential spouse made in newspaper advertising, and there are reports that such snooping is increasing. [98] Detectives investigate former amorous relationships and can include fellow college students, former police officers skilled in investigations, and medical workers "with access to health records." [98] Transsexuals and eunuchs have begun using Internet dating in some states in India. [107] The practice of dating runs against some religious traditions, and the radical Hindu group Sri Ram Sena threatened to "force unwed couples" to marry, if they were discovered dating on Valentine`s Day ; a fundamentalist leader said "drinking and dancing in bars and celebrating this day has nothing to do with Hindu traditions." [108] The threat sparked a protest via the Internet which resulted in cartloads of pink panties being sent to the fundamentalist leader`s office. [108] as part of the Pink Chaddi Campaign (Pink Underwear/Panties Campaign). Another group, Akhil Bharatiya Hindu Mahasabha , threatened to do the same, for which it was severely mocked online [109] and on the day after Valentine`s Day , had protesters outside its Delhi headquarters, with people (mockingly) complaining that it did not fulfill its "promise", [110] with some having come with materials for the wedding rituals. There is a type of courtship called Omiai in which parents hire a matchmaker to give resumes and pictures to potential mates for their approval, leading to a formal meeting with parents and matchmaker attending. [111] If the couple has a few dates, they`re often pressured by the matchmaker and parents to decide whether or not to marry. [111] The reasons for dating in Korea are various. Research conducted by Saegye Daily showed that teenagers choose to date for reasons such as "to become more mature," "to gain consultation on worries, or troubles," or "to learn the difference between boys and girls," etc. [112] Similarly, a news report in MK Daily showed that the primary reasons for dating for workers of age 20 ~ 30 are "emotional stability," "marriage," "someone to spend time with," etc. [113] An interesting feature in the reasons for dating in Korea is that many Koreans are somewhat motivated to find a date due to the societal pressure that often views single persons as incompetent. [114] Present Korean dating shows a changing attitude due to the influence of tradition and modernization. There are a lot of Confucian ideas and practices that still saturate South Korean culture and daily life as traditional values. [115] Patriarchy in Korea has been grounded on Confucian culture that postulated hierarchical social orders according to age and sex. [116] Patriarchy and Women Patriarchy is "a system of social structure and practices in which men dominate, oppress and exploit women” which is well reflected in the ways of dating in Korea. [117] Adding to it, there is an old saying that says a boy and a girl should not sit together after they have reached the age of seven. It is one of the old teachings of Confucianism [118] and reveals its inclination toward conservatism. Most Koreans tend to regard dating as a precursor to marriage. According to a survey conducted by Gyeonggi-do Family Women’s Researcher on people of age 26-44, 85.7% of respondents replied as ‘willing to get married’. There is no dating agency but the market for marriage agencies are growing continuously. [119] DUO and Gayeon are one of the major marriage agencies in Korea. Also, "Mat-sun", the blind date which is usually based on the premise of marriage, is held often among ages of late 20s to 30s. [120] But the late trend is leaning towards the separation between dating and marriage unlike the conservative ways of the past. [121] In the survey conducted by a marriage agency, of 300 single males and females who were asked of their opinions on marrying their lovers, about only 42% of the males and 39% of the females said yes. [122] There are also cases of dating without the premise of marriage. However, the majority still takes getting into a relationship seriously. Dating in Korea is also considered a necessary activity supported by society. [114] Korean adults are constantly questioned whether or not they are dating by the people around them. [114] During family gatherings on holidays one of the questions that people hate getting asked the most is related to marriage. [123] According to a survey it was the highest ranked by 47.3 percent. [123] College students in their sophomore to junior year who have not been in a relationship feel anxious that they are falling behind amongst their peers. Most of them try "sogaeting", going out on a blind date, for the first time to get into a relationship. Dating is a duty that most people feel they must take on to not seem incompetent. [124] In recent trends, even dramas such as “”Shining Romance” (“빛나는 로맨스”), and “Jang Bo-ri is Here!” (“왔다 장보리”), and in a variety show called, “Dad! Where Are We Going?” (“아빠 어디가?”) there are elementary children confessing their love. Dating has also been depicted to be an activity of fun and happiness. There are Korean TV programs that film celebrities together as married couples supporting this depiction of dating such as “We Got Married” (“우리 결혼했어요”), “With You” (“님과 함께”) and “The Man Who Gets Married Daily” (“매일 결혼 하는 남자.”) [124] According to a survey by wedding consulting agency, men consider a physical relation as a catalyst of love, otherwise, women regard it as a confirmation of affection. Adding to it, both 79.2% of men and 71.0% of women stated that how deep their physical relation in dating is concerned in the decision of whether to marry. [125] Marriages and courtship in Pakistan are influenced by traditional cultural practices similar to those elsewhere in the Indian subcontinent as well as Muslim norms and manners. Illegitimate relationships before marriage are considered a social taboo and social interaction between unmarried men and women is encouraged at a modest and healthy level. Couples are usually wedded through either an arranged marriage or love marriage . Love marriages are those in which the individuals have chosen a partner whom they like by their own choice prior to marriage, and usually occur with the consent of parents and family. Arranged marriages on the other hand are marriages which are set and agreed by the families or guardians of the two individuals where the couple may not have met before. In either cases and in consistency with traditional marital practices, individuals who marry are persuaded to meet and talk to each other for some time before considering marrying so that they can check their compatibility. Singapore `s largest dating service, SDU, Social Development Unit , is a government-run dating system. The original SDU, which controversially promoted marriages among university graduate singles, no longer exists today. On 28 January 2009, it was merged with SDS [Social Development Services], which just as controversially promoted marriages among non-graduate singles. The merged unit, SDN Social Development Network seeks to promote meaningful relationships, with marriage touted as a top life goal, among all resident [Singapore] singles within a conducive network environment of singles, relevant commercial and public entities.

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I have been on a quest to find my perfect Colombian woman match. In this post, I go over my experience: what works best and what doesn’t. Halloween in Medellin is fun. I wrote this post about my dating experience in Medellin back in April of 2013. It’s 2018 and I continue to update this post. Medellin women are beautiful, and word is spreading pretty much around the world. Therefore, I have decided document my experience. I have been dating Colombian women for over 6 years now.  When I first arrived here, there wasn’t yet a complete guide to dating paisa women . I had to learn everything from experience, and it’s been a blast. Places frequented by tourists in Medellin are more saturated with foreigners than before. Hot Medellin girls are not the sole reason for this rise in tourism to “The City of Eternal Spring”, but it is definitely up there. Furthermore, I am aware of the underworld of sex tourism in Colombia and I know that there are many strip clubs and brothels in Medellin; however, strippers and prostitutes are not the types of girls that I date, nor is it something I would like to promote, therefore, I will not be referring to that in this post. My situation is a little different than most foreigners here in Colombia. I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian. I have lived my entire life, barring the past 5 years of course, in Southern California. At first glance, Medellin women do not perceive me as a foreigner due to the way I look.  So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them. The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from girls here in Medellin. It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon meeting a foreigner. Most of my close friends here in Medellin are foreigners and I have seen girls break their neck checking them out as we walk down the street. So I do not get that immediate attention here in Medellin.  Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.”  The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! I speak Spanish fluently; therefore, I can’t play the “…no jaaabl0 Españoler mucho bueno. Quieres practicar?” card with women. Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage. I’m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish. It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self. I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments and like it when a guy can make them laugh. This has proven to be essential for me when picking up women in Medellin. Meeting women in Medellin is not hard. Socially, women are a little different than the southern California women I was used to picking up. It is not usual for women in Medellin to go out by themselves just to let loose. Typically, very beautiful girls in Medellin will go to a bar or a nightclub in a group, and there will be guys in that group usually. For an emasculated man from the United States, this is a nightmare. Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand. Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all. Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game. Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing. I do this often, and many times I will dance one or two songs without even saying a word. Imagine, our hands are on each other’s bodies before even knowing each other’s names. More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. I get in there and leave silently. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.  A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.D .)  I started to read about this subject back in high school. It is not about being petulant or rude, it’s about being confident (comfortable in your own skin.) I meet women in Medellin by just living my life. Every day I see gorgeous women walking up and down the street.  I go to the supermarket and I see beautiful women, I go get my hair cut and there’s a breathtaking woman, I go eat lunch and I see an amazingly attractive woman. Do not even get me started on the gym, it is almost like a circus sideshow in there. Seeing beautiful women here is so common that Colombian men don’t even turn to look, it’s ridiculous. I’ve been here 5 years and I’m still floored at some of the women in my gym! On the street, I am usually attracted to women who look as if they are on their way to an office job.  Generally, these women will be dressed and fashionable.  I can tell they are going to work because normally they will have a badge around their neck or pinned to their shirt or pants. These are higher quality women than those you find in a reggaeton dance club, so for me it’s more fun to talk to this type of women, being that I always have interesting things to say and that I am generally curious and ask lots of questions (Women in Medellin, like most people in the world, like to talk about themselves.) Professional women who are educated and have an active daily routine are abundant in Medellin. This type of woman works a lot so it’s not easy to wrangle them down and have them go out with you often, and for me, that’s perfect because I too am always busy. In Medellin, you will also find a lot of beautiful, smart women who have their own business or work independently. Being an entrepreneur my self this is a trait that I fancy. Paisas are generally very proud, generous people and this “professional woman” is no exception.  This is the type of woman that will discuss politics, religion, fashion, etc, and at the end of the date pull out her wallet and offer to split the bill and sometimes even pay for the whole meal. It always annoys me when foreigners say that they always have to pay when they go on dates with Paisa girls, blaming the women and saying that Medellin women only want to take advantage of them.  There’s a saying here in Colombia “Papaya dada, papaya partida.”  Meaning that “if you look like a sucker you’re gonna get played like a sucker.”  So don’t blame the women when in fact it’s your lack confidence that makes you “el bobo.” Valentina is a cutie and smart. She’s currently learning English. I teach English here in Medellin .  Though I have a business and I have not worked a “regular job” in a few years; teaching English in Medellin has been the best move I could have made for my social life.  I do NOT date my students.  I am very North American in that regard. Though dating students in Medellin is not uncommon and sometimes not even frowned upon, it is definitely not acceptable in the United States, so I draw a line and never cross it. I am the leader in my classes and dating a student can get messy; I can lose all credibility and position in class, so I avoid it all together. I do however go out with groups of students and/or colleagues in order to make friends and meet new people. Students will add me on Facebook and then their friends and cousins will add me. That has served to be an abundant source of women here in Medellin. Facebook is huge here, and striking up a conversation via facebook messenger after being added is not hard. This was a new friend I made and decided to pick up for the picture at Carnaval de Barranquilla. Most Medellin girls are pretty shy by nature.  You have to understand that even though Medellin and the metropolitan area has around four million inhabitants it is still a small town.  Medellin is a conservative city which is very much in touch with its old traditions and customs.  Family life is very traditional.  Gender roles are also very conservative and defined, so logically the women here, for the most part, are timid (until you get some alcohol in them and play some reggaeton, but we will get to that in a later blog post.) This inherently coy personality could make it difficult for a foreigner, who doesn’t speak much Spanish, to gain a girl’s interest.  Even for a fluent Spanish speaker, I have found it frustrating sometimes.  Many a time have I given up on a girl only to find out later that she was very interested. One night stands with women in Medellin are not very common for me.  I definitely experienced more of this living in southern California than here in Medellin.  A foreign-looking guy could probably have a very different experience.  Not to say I haven’t had them here, but not as much as I did in the U.S. She’s got a bit of a temper, but a very cool friend. I have found that my best pickup move is being honest with women in Medellin.  Letting them know right away that I work a lot, and that my business goals are my primary focus has proven to be a key factor when dealing with women here. In my opinion, men and women in Medellin are possessive .  They view their boyfriend or girlfriend as their possession, and they want to be viewed as a possession as well.  So jealousy can get out of control.  As an English teacher, most of my students’ ages range from 18 to 30 and there are always more female students than male.  I love to ask my female students what they think of men in Medellin.  It’s always pretty clear that women think that men are cheaters.  It’s always noted that men in Medellin say anything to get a girl to fall for them. There is a whole culture around having a “mosa,” in Medellin.  It is almost expected for a man to have a chick on the side.  So it’s no surprise that women become possessive and are quick to suspect a guy of sleeping around.  I avoid this by being honest and direct. This grooming and wardrobe section I just put in today (05/03/16). I had to include it because I meet far too many guys that are just clueless. So let’s go over some fashion faux pas (the don’ts) first. Don’t wear flip-flops (open-toed shoes) if you want to pick up girls in Medellin. It’s ok on the coast, but here in Colombia, for some reason, women think it is gross. Don’t wear shorts. During the day it’s okay, as long as they are not boardshorts (beach shorts). Stylish shorts that come down to the knee or just above work well. It can get very hot during the day in Medellin, yet the majority of local men wear pants. Do NOT wear shorts to go out clubbing at night, they will not let you in. Melissa over at Medellin Living wrote a great piece on men’s fashion in Medellin . Do groom. This means plucking your nose and ear hair. The nicely groomed half-beard is in these days, so that’s ok. Do shave your armpits. You will rarely meet a Colombian guy that doesn’t, hence many Colombian women expect this. In fact, many shave their arms and sometimes legs too. I still think it’s pretty…feminine; therefore, I don’t do it. As long as your not super hairy you’re fine. Do tuck your shirt in when you go to a fancy club. Again, this is something that I do not do, but local males do this and women respond to it. Do take a shower. You will not get laid if you stink. Do brush your teeth . Colombians are obsessed with teeth. If you’ve got nice teeth this can be a great defining quality to women here. Do wear cologne. They love that here. Most local guys douse themselves in it. Do look sharp at all times. I’ve gotten in the habit of looking decent at all times, even when going to the gym or basketball practice. I’ll always carry an extra shirt, toothbrush, deodorant and body spray…because you never know whom you’ll meet on the Metro. Updated 04/01/16 – I had to put this in because several of you have asked about it. When it comes to Dating Agencies I personally have never used one, therefore, I have no recommendations, I do know that there are a few out there that do a good job. I’ve met guys that have used them and have met great girls. In my opinion, it’s a great way to meet women without having to do too much work, also if your Spanish is limited, I can see how it can get your foot in the door. But just like anything else, at the end of the day, it’s just you in front of that girl, hence it’s all up to you and your personality. I buckled down last year and got a Colombian Cupid dating site  account (disclaimer: I’m not trying to push Colombian Cupid; that’s annoying. If you’re not interested in hearing my experience on the site just scroll down.) I never felt the need to get an account because I meet so many people through my language exchanges and just living my life here in Medellin. Nevertheless, I subscribed for 3 months and gave it a whirl . In 3 months I went on about 20 dates from Colombian Cupid. It was pretty amazing. Out of the 20, I became friends with 8 of the girls and we still hang out. I found that the key to “matching” was to build out my profile really well. What does that consist of? Picture – I had a great picture taken by my photographer friend, that’s the one I use as a profile picture. The other 4 pictures are pictures of me doing the things I love to do: playing basketball, watching Colombian soccer matches, having fun with friends, teaching, etc. Description – I’m a very blunt and honest person. In my profile description, I wrote about myself in that way. Stating that I am from California, but that I am Colombian, that I am always busy working, playing on my basketball team, and exploring Colombia. I wrote this in both English and Spanish. What I want – In the part that asks what I’m looking for I was very straightforward. I wrote: ‘I’m looking for a serious relationship, but if it doesn’t work I’m always open to making new friends. My ideal girl is someone that will motivate me and inspire me every day. If your profile says “soy una princesa” please do no contact me.’ Once I had my profile built out over 90% (there’s a metric) I started messaging. I’m in sales, therefore, it’s all in the numbers. I’m not a handsome blue-eyed, blond-haired guy so I know my strength is my gift of gab. So I made a goal to message 100 women. At first, I started by writing a funny, short message. That bombed for me…I don’t know why, but it just didn’t get any replies. So I put myself in the shoes of a paisa girl looking for a long-term relationship on Colombian Cupid, and I found my secret sauce. My first message was a compliment about something they wrote on their profile, not about their looks. Thus, I had to take the time to read their profiles and make a comment about something they wrote. It took more time, but the success rate skyrocketed. Here’s the formula I found: Do not click on the little heart to show interest. Very beautiful women get that every minute of the day. Read profiles and make a compliment or a relevant comment. If they don’t have a bio written out, I don’t write to them. If they don’t take the time to write out their bio and what they’re looking for then they are either too shy, not looking for something long term or it’s a fake profile for a prostitute or webcam girl. Once I had a good message exchange I would go to my filter, Facebook. Once I had them on facebook I was able to see all of their pictures, and they were able to see all of mine. Once we were keen on each other I would ask for the date. If you don’t live in Colombia, you can do a Skype video call. There are always over 800 girls online. I’ve written a post titled, My Experience Using Colombian Cupid . Feel free to read it and leave a comment there if you have any questions. I did a bit more research on the Cupid Media company and found that they’re all over the place, even Mexico , Brazil , and all of Latin America ! I have recently downloaded the Tinder and Happn application for my smartphone. I have friends that swear by them; they go on dates all the time. For me, I’ve had very limited success. I’m going to give it another try, I’ll come back and update this post. Many guys have asked me about dating tour agencies in Colombia. Thus I have added this section. Over the last seven years, I’ve seen many of these come and go. They’re short lived for a few reasons, namely, they either get shut down by Colombian authorities for licensing, taxes or illegal activity (usually prostitution and scamming customers) or they get muscled out by the local mafia that has a grip on prostitution. One of the sites that withstood the test of time is  DreamConnections.com . This is an actual dating agency that sets updating tours in Medellin and is completely legitimate.  I came across the site when I saw a story featured on CNN than on the Today Show. I did more research and found out that the business is owned by an American, Mark and his Ukranian wife, Anne. What really surprised me was when I actually met three guys (three different occasions) here in Medellin that were here for a week with a  Dream Connections  tour and they all had great things to say. I met them through a friend that was working as a translator for the company. He no longer works with them, he actually branched out and has become a concierge and property manager. Anyway, when I met them, my first question was “what are the women that they set you up with like?” They all had a similar answer. The women were all professionals, lovely and not professional working girls. I’ve never used this service, but over the last seven years, it is the only dating tour site that has not only lasted but also thrived. It’s probably due to the owner, Mark, and the company values. Colombian Girls are not Gold Diggers! I’ve heard many foreign guys complain that they always get hit up for money (or things) by girls here. After seven years of living here in Medellin, I have discovered that most of the guys that get asked for cash or things are guys that try to date prostitutes. Don’t be Captain Save a Hoe! Even though it might look enticing because they are beautiful, charming and down to earth…very rarely will you be able to turn a “hoe into a housewife.” You will be taken advantage of and you’ll resent Colombian women. It’s not fair to generalize 25 million women because of a few bad apples. Instead go out and try to meet a normal girl perhaps at the mall, at the bank, at a cafe, etc. I dated Jessica for a couple of months, but things just did not work out. Mostly because she had to go to Bogota for her internship and it was really hard to keep the relationship going long distance. She’s an amazing girl: very hard working, independent, entrepreneurial, and very sweet. I’m sure that many guys would say that I’m nuts for not keeping her, but that’s just the way it is sometimes, just gotta keep moving forward and not look back. Today, I’m actually super interested in another girl here in Medellin. She’s also very hard working, she’s more of a loose cannon than Jessica, meaning she’s a little more extroverted and opinionated, but that’s exactly the kind of girl I like. I’m definitely taking it slower with her, have been on 2 dates with her and kissed her only once. I’m making a conscious effort to be a complete gentleman and to get to know her well. With the cheap plastic surgery here and the obsession with outward appearance, it’s easy to get caught up with a very “artificially” beautiful girl, but I’m well past that point. So I’m very happy to have met Monica and we’ll see where it goes. I’ll update soon. Monica is in the middle, she’s got such great energy. I’m no longer seeing Monica.  I’m not seeing anyone girl right now. I’m just working very hard on my business and on a real estate project. I have made a lot of new friends though, and that’s always good. I will update in detail soon. For now, feel free to leave comments below, as you can see I’m pretty good at replying. I’ve been super focused on my business, we’re opening up an office here in Medellin, we’re a digital marketing agency , Red Door Studios S.A.S. This has led me to go on far less dates than before. I do have a nice little anecdote though. I was at the bank the other day and I had to do a transaction at the teller. I was not really paying attention, but when I was called to the window the girl that was helping me was absolutely gorgeous. I smiled and said hi, then asked her how she was doing. I think she was taken aback because not many people actually ask her that. She said she was doing good and I told her that she must be new because I hadn’t seen her working at that branch. She said that they usually move them around. I told her that I needed to make a deposit, we proceeded with the typical transaction details. As she was inputting data into the computer I told her that I thought it would be against bank policy for her to give me her phone number, therefore, I’d come back when she got off. She said that would be fine. As I walked away I stuffed the transaction receipt into my pocket and walked into the Exito (supermarket) to buy groceries . My day was so full that I didn’t even eat lunch that day. Come 5:30 p.m. I had totally forgotten about the beautiful teller and proceeded to go play basketball as I usually do. When I got back home I remembered the girl. This has been my life for the last few months: business and basketball (I play on 2 teams here in the city) and admin the Medellin Basketball Association basketball group . As I was getting ready to go to bed I emptied out my pants’ pockets. The deposit receipt was there and to my surprise…on the back…she had written her phone number. I immediately added it to my phone and sent her a WhatsApp message, telling her that I had missed her after work because I got caught up with work and then I went to play basketball. She replied that it was fine, we exchanged a couple more messages and have been speaking since. We should be going out this weekend. It’s the middle of December and Christmas in Medellin is in full swing. Every weekend is a party and everyone is single, even girls with boyfriends are single in Medellin. My favorite thing about December in Medellin is the street parties in different neighborhoods. The whole block is closed off and very loud music is played, food is cooked, and dancing and drinking continue into the middle of the next day. Recently I reconnected with a girl who has been an acquaintance for more than a couple years now. She’s pretty and smart, but has always had a boyfriend since I’ve known her. Last weekend I went on a Christmas Chiva (party bus), and there she was, with a different guy. I just said hi and hung out and danced with the girls I came with. After 2 hours of riding around town while drinking and dancing we talked. Low and behold she’s single. We danced for the rest of the night, then once the chiva dropped us off we continued talking (I blacked out for a good part, but I remember most of our conversation.) This was last Saturday, it’s Wednesday today, and we’ve been talking on Facebook. Even though I’ve known her for 2 years, I didn’t really know here. It turns out that she works for the public utility company here, EPM, she’s an architect and her passion is dancing and is part of a team. She also lives alone and is quite intelligent. Regardless of what happens with her, I think she’ll be a great friend to have. On another note, I found a video that I had made with a Paisa friend of mine where I asked him questions about women in Medellin. Check it: Well, the girl that I started to see in December has become just a friend. I really liked her a lot, but she did something that kind of confused me. A couple weeks ago, she wrote me on WhatsApp. She wrote that she had been talking to her ex-boyfriend and that she was thinking about getting back with him. Mind you this is after we had already been out on several dates and gotten physical. I told a friend about what she had said and he said that maybe she wanted to test me, to see if I’d get angry and tell her that she’s mine or maybe she was just being honest with me. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and went with thinking she was being honest. I wrote her back and told her that I really liked her, but that she needs to do what makes her feel happy and that I still wanted to be friends, that I’m still here for her whenever she wants to talk or go dance bachata/salsa. She hasn’t written me since. lol. I guess she wasn’t bluffing. In lieu of being…dumped (we were never actually dating, but…still), I decided to reopen my Colombian Cupid Dating Site account. I talked to a few girls, but nothing special. She is 21 and beautiful. At first, I thought, oh she’s too young…even though her profile stated that she likes guys between 25 – 35 I still didn’t think we’d have much in common or to talk about. Regardless, I sent her a private message. Shortly after she replied and we started to exchange messages. Ultimately I got her phone number and added her to WhatsApp. We went on our first date last Saturday. Thanks to my notes I know that her favorite food is Italian, so I took her to a great restaurant called IL Castello in el poblado . I had the Fettuccine Alfredo (very good.) After that, we went for cocktails at a cool restaurant/bar called 37 Park near Parque Lleras, where we had a jar of white wine, lychee Sangria. By this time I could totally feel the chemistry, so once we were done with the Sangria we headed over to Vintrash for dancing . Wow, can this girl move, I was floored. By the end of the date, we had connected very well through conversation, and physically through dancing and lots of kissing. I would have to say that it was the best date I’ve had in a long time. I’m looking forward to seeing her more and to see where this all goes. It’s been 3 months since I last updated. I’ve been “seeing” D this whole time and it’s been great. The best part about it is that she’s been adamant about not wanting a boyfriend, so I’m still free, thank god almighty! So hanging out with D has made it clear to me that it is possible to find a girl that is 21 that’s hot, that I can actually have a conversation with and that works and studies. We do have some clashes on things…like her wanting to spend all weekend just “resting.” Yeah I’m kinda weird I guess, many might say, why wouldn’t you want to be laying around with her all day? To be honest, I get bored. I usually do stuff on weekends like play basketball. I play on two different teams in a couple tournaments and I play pick up as well. Or just going to Ciudad Del Rio to eat at the food trucks. Or going out with a group of friends to a bar or a club and having a fun time. It seems like I’m more energetic than she is, but we compromise. Plus it’s not like I see her every day or all weekend. Regardless, I’ve been having a great time with her. A couple of weekends ago we went to a finca (country house) on the lake at Guatape with a few friends. We had lots of food and drinks, swam in the lake, played soccer, pet the cows and had an awesome time. Well, I really haven’t been looking, but it’s funny how when you’re not really looking they kinda find you. Perhaps it’s the nonchalant attitude or the no pressure attitude. Whatever it is, it’s working well and I haven’t had any problems getting dates on weekends. I’ve found some awesome new date spots that I wanted to share: Bolivar Dance Club – this place is great if you want to take a girl out dancing. It’s a little more upscale so you should definitely wear nice clothes. The music is right up my alley, hip-hop, and reggaeton most of the time. NOTE: it’s 23 and over, I tried to go in there with D and we were denied at the door. Victoria Regia – an awesome lounge/bar/restaurant. Perfect for a date. They sometimes have live music, so check their events. Eden Bistro – Korean food! Yes, finally a real Korean restaurant. Granted that many Colombian girls might not be as adventurous when it comes to food…this place is casual and fun. They also have cocktails and beer in case your date is not into the food. Mercado Del Rio – This is definitely a fun place to go to. It’s a big market-style eatery that was basically built in a hangar. There are tons of restaurants (mostly barbecue style) inside including a wine bar, a couple cafes, and a dance club on the third floor. It’s a great place for a date or just to go hang out with friends. Update #7 – 07/14/17 – The D Saga and…Who Pays on Dates? It’s been four months since I last updated. I’m still seeing D. She’s 21, I’m 36, I work a lot and so does she. She works at a bank full time. So we see each other sometimes during the week, but mostly on weekends. Before meeting me she had a bad breakup, and she’s always had me at arm’s length in terms of expressing her feelings. She has always said that she doesn’t want a relationship, that we’re having fun and that’s it, however, a few weeks ago we were out partying with my friends in Envigado. There were other girls there, and we were all dancing. I danced with a girl, one of my brother’s girlfriend’s friends, I didn’t think much of it, we finished dancing, I turned to D, and she had this angry look. She didn’t say anything and just up and left. Got in a cab without explanation and took off. Anyway, I didn’t talk to her for two weeks. I’m too busy to be chasing girls. I really like her a lot and I’ve expressed it to her, yet she’s been cold. Last week she wrote me and told me that she missed me, I told her the same. So we met up for dinner. She arrived with a gift bag and gave it to me. It was a little-stuffed animal and a card, which I thought was awesome. So now we’re good, but with her mood swings, I’m sure we’ll have some sort of fight. The good thing is that she now knows that I don’t like to play that cat and mouse game. I told her that I love hanging out with her and that if she ever feels angry or that I’ve done something to hurt her that she should talk to me instead of just storming off. So we’re good now, but we’ll see. The man pays. Period. I don’t care how broke you are or how you feel that they are taking advantage of you. In my book…(my dad’s book originally, lol), if I’m taking a girl out for a nice time, I always pay, no question. I remember when I was a kid and I was going to go on my first date with a girl. I asked my dad for money to go to the movies. He told me that I had to work for it. So I went to his business and worked all day for which he paid me $20.00. He then said that I had to go to work the next day as well. I laughed, and said, “right.”  He said I needed another $20 for the date. At 13 I was baffled by this. I asked, “what do you mean?” He said that I needed to have money for: her movie ticket, popcorn, soda and ice cream after the show; that if I didn’t go to work the next day he would not let me go to the movies. I quickly found a great excuse, “but I have homework to finish.” “You know the answer, figure it out,” he replied. He continued, ‘…paying for everything doesn’t make you a “real man,” the point is that money should never be an issue. If you work hard and smart, you’ll be able to go on as many dates as you want and never have to have the lack of money hinder your experience.’ How the fuck was I going to argue that? In Medellin, women, in general, expect the guy to pay. It’s part of people’s frame of mind. Of course, there are women that will offer to split or pay the whole tab. Furthermore, there are girls that will want to take advantage. If you’ve got a girl asking you for money or to buy her things, then it’s probably a good idea to stay away. Unless if you don’t mind. With D, I always send an Uber to pick her up and bring her to my apartment or to our date spot. It literally costs about $8,000 pesos ($3.50 US), it’s pretty negligible. It makes her feel important, which she is, and she’s never late, which can be a problem in Medellin. Oh, hey, I’ve found some really great places for breakfast (now that I’m on a no processed sugar, carbs or alcohol diet I wake up early on weekends). Al Alma – This is my favorite for two reasons, the coffee is great and the portions are big. There’s one in my neighborhood, Manila, but they have several locations, check out the Al Alma Facebook page . Huevos Campesinos are the bomb! Ganso & Castor – This place is a little slow when it comes to service, but they have great Eggs Benedict, so it’s worth the wait. There’s a spot in my neighborhood, but like Al Alma they have a few locations around the city. Check out the Ganso & Castor facebook page . One of the things that I’ve found to really help improve my relationships with women in Medellin is self-improvement. On December of last year, I made a few resolutions to make myself better in all areas of life. Diet – I was overweight and weak. I vowed to quit eating processed sugar and processed carbs. I’ve held that promise to this day. It’s not a “diet” anymore. It’s a lifestyle. After much research, I’ve decided that the next step is to try the Keto Diet. Even though I’m pretty strict as to what I eat, I still eat well. I’ve even formed a Medellin Foodie Group . We meet every Wednesday at a different restaurant. It’s a great way to try new food and meet new people. Gym – I joined Smart Fit gym and love it! It’s only $69,000 per month for the Black membership, which lets me go to any Smart Fit gym in Colombia. I go to the gym every Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday. 100 Day Challenge – 140 days ago a few friends and I decided to challenge ourselves and do 100 pushups and situps for 100 days straight. We made a WhatsApp chat group in order to keep each other accountable. We upload a video of one of our sets every day. If someone doesn’t upload a video we take $50,000. We finished our 100-day challenge 40 days ago, we felt so awesome that we decided to make it a 200-day challenge. We’re on day 140 today. Basketball – I also made a resolution to play more basketball in Medellin this year. Since January I’ve been playing every Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday. I joined 3 teams to play in tournaments and games are on Saturdays and Sundays. Basketball serves as great exercise and a great distraction from work and life in general. My Medellin Basketball Association group on Facebook has grown immensely. Books – This year I made it a resolution to read more books. At least one a month. This year I’ve read Tools of Titans, Mindset, The 110% Solution, SCRUM, Digital Gold, Treasure Island, Dune, The Best Salesman in the World (again), Little Red Book of Selling (again), One Minute Manager (again.) Online Classes – I’m always taking online classes for various things, usually related to my business. I use edX to take online classes offered by top universities like Berkeley, Harvard, and MIT. Currently, I’m doing the Google Online Challenge . 2016 was a good year for my business, Red Door Studios. Since we’re a digital marketing agency scaling can be tricky and in some cases involves hiring a ton of people. I’ve been reading books like SCRUM and The One Minute Manager to help me strengthen my core employee group and it’s been working. I’ve also asked for help and advice from some of my friends here in Medellin who have made it big, like: Colin, CEO of Learn Crypto Fast , Brent Mauriello, CEO of FlexFire LEDS , and Zach Blenkinsopp, CEO of Digital Roofing Innovations .  It really is true that your network = net worth. All of these things have helped me become more awesome. My 3-year goal is to help retire my parents, therefore, I need all the energy, motivation, and positive influences I can get. UPDATE #8 – 01/15/18 – Happy New Year! We’re halfway into the first month of 2018. I’m still seeing Dani, aka Puchas. I call her Puchas because that’s how she pronounces the word “push-ups.” She knows I do push-ups every morning, so she always asks, “ya hiciste tus puchas?” and it makes me laugh. As for “the relationship?” Well, we’ve got it all figured out. We’re friends with benefits. In Spanish, that’s “amigos con derechos.” I’m kidding about the whole figured out part. Anyone who thinks they can just be friends with benefits with someone they keep seeing is an idiot. Regardless, I’ve been pretty busy with work, so Dani is the only girl I’ve been seeing and it’s been fun. One of my 2018 resolutions is to do more fun things out of the office. Therefore, on the first weekend of the year I participated in a 3 on 3 tournament in a town called Marinilla (near Rio Negro). Dani was nice enough to accompany me. It was an all-day affair, so her putting up with basketball all day was nice. We got second place. Dani got a medal for hanging out all day at the tournament and cheering us on. The old man can still get up. After the tournament, we went to eat at a great restaurant in the town called La Torre . Marinilla is a cool little town less than an hour outside of Medellin. It’s a little colder than Medellin, so bring a sweater. The town’s population is about 50,000, there’s a town square with a church in the middle, and a zona rosa (a street with nice bars, restaurants, and little shops.) To get there you can take the metro to the Caribe station, where the North Bus Terminal is, and pay $6,000 ($2.00 US) for the bus to Marinilla. I didn’t want to deal with the bus on the way up, so I took an Uber, $80,000 ($25.00 US.) On the way back home we took the bus. My B-Day was on January 3rd. Franco, my brother, organized a surprise dinner at Black Pepper Steak House in Envigado. It was a nice surprise. All of my friends were there and we had a great meal. I had the tri-tip, it was great, I’ll definitely be going back there. I’m 37 now, but I feel like I’m 22. Regular exercise, good diet, and dating a 22-year-old help. It’s easy to get shit twisted and clump up all Colombian women in one category. I see it all of the time. Foreign guys come here and have a couple bad experiences, then state that all Colombian chicks are possessive, jealous, and crazy. If you ever hear that from a guy, make sure to ask him what his experience with women in his own country has been. Odds are he has had the same experience with women in his own country or very little experience with women as a whole. Instead of trying to figure women out I’ve focused on becoming the best version of myself possible, and that has proven to be what women are attracted to. I’m looking forward to an amazing 2018 here in Medellin, Colombia. If you go to this blog you’ll see that I love to write about many different topics. Not surprisingly this post generates 80% of all my website’s traffic. The keyword: “Colombian women” is searched for over 40,000 times a month, and this blog post is now on the first page of results. It is not my intention to degrade or generalize Colombia women. I find that dating in Medellin is an interesting topic and I think I have a pretty unique view. Medellin is a beautiful city with a lot to offer.  Unfortunately, its reputation precedes itself and most people think that it’s just a place to find hot, beautiful, easy women, but when they get here they’re faced with a harsh reality.  My intention is to show how these stereotypes are not true, how diverse dating can be in Medellin, and of course how interesting the Paisa woman is. I think I covered some very relevant basics here, but if you’re actively meeting women in Medellin (or would like to start),  Dating Medellin has produced an excellent course that covers everything. I highly recommend it. I love to get insight from readers, feel free to leave comments and/or questions below. Hello, my name is Andrew Macia and the Medellin Buzz is my blog.  I moved to Medellin in 2010 and fell in love with the city. I taught advanced level English for four years and then started a digital marketing company. I love Colombia, and Medellin is my home. I like to write and I want to give back to the community. This is the best way I know how. I hope you enjoy my blog! I started the Medellin Buzz as a resource for my English as a foreign language students. A site where they could read about their city in English, that wasn’t boring. It slowly turned into a personal blog and hub for information for people discovering Medellin. I check comments frequently, so feel free to leave your comment and/or questions below.

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